Sex with Civilian women: Why I pay for sex.

[nychelsea]

Originally Posted by skudd

On the same note, its said that if you show me a incredibly hot women i will show you some guy thats tired of fucking her.

Guys' DNA is calculated to "variety is the spice of life,"

[skudd]

Originally Posted by nychelsea

Guys' DNA is calculated to "variety is the spice of life,"

Especially mine!

[sanman111]

Originally Posted by paperpusher

I will let you in on a little secret.................. Sex isnt everything. There I said it on a whore board. Now I am ducking.

There are things that trascend sex and that is what you are missing. Everything you said is true. There will always be the law of diminishing returns on sex. And thus why many of us are here today.

In you truly are in love, not movie love, not infauation, but deep meaningful love, the above becomes irrelevant. You will want to please each other and the emotional connection will be far greater than the physical one.

It is easy to get bored with sex. There are only so many variations. Stop looking for someone you physcially connect with. If a woman truly loves you, she will intuitively learn what you want and vica versa.

Find someone you dig so much, that you just want to spend time with. The rest will flow from there. I dated 50 women in a very short period of time, until I found one that was special. NYC is one of the worst places to find women. The women there are seeking the wrong things in guys and are more trophy hunting.

Just one paperpusher's opinion.

I'll quote this because it deserves another mention and I agree with most of it. I have mentioned here before that p4p has actually helped me in some ways.

I have also dated over 50 women in a year and hundreds over my dating career. Most bore me and provide little more than a convenient opportunity for sex. The ones I connect with on a deeper level few and far between. Almost all of those don't appeal on a physical level as much as their competition and lack the sense of sexual adventure. They stay friends while I go and bang emotional train wrecks who provide road head, kink, and sex in public places. However, the relationships always fall apart and end up a mess.

While I still do this from time to time, I find myself paying more attention and giving more of a chance to the 'nice and cute' girls who really like me after I participated in p4p. Mostly because I know that a hot kinky chick is only a phone call and an ATM visit away. It allows me to develop deeper relationships and honestly not care if the girl I am with is going to immediately sleep with me. As I approach 30 and attempt to start to settle down, I appreciate those qualities more than easy sex anyway. I have actually dated and seriously considered women who are wonderful people despite a lack of crazy sexual appetite. I feel that this the way women date. The freedom to know that sex can be had anytime while you search for the right person.

That said, p4p also allows me easy access to sex whenever I want. More than that it is guilt free self indulgence. It is rare that I can get a massage and release, or a NSA bj from a gf or date. This easy access, no reciprocation sex really is the junk food of sex. But, it is nice to allow myself to be self indulge and not worry the other person as you are paying them for the service. As a provider once intimated. "I wish someone would just give me head whenever I wanted so I could about my day after that."

In the end, relationship sex is better but with more strings. I find that both have their benefits though. While I wrestle with ethics and morals, it is becoming more clear to me that finding that great sex life with a wonderful, compatible person is not that likely and I may have to balance both needs using p4p.

[BennyBlanc0]

Originally Posted by sanman111

I'll quote this because it deserves another mention and I agree with most of it. I have mentioned here before that p4p has actually helped me in some ways.

I have also dated over 50 women in a year and hundreds over my dating career. Most bore me and provide little more than a convenient opportunity for sex. The ones I connect with on a deeper level few and far between. Almost all of those don't appeal on a physical level as much as their competition and lack the sense of sexual adventure. They stay friends while I go and bang emotional train wrecks who provide road head, kink, and sex in public places. However, the relationships always fall apart and end up a mess.

While I still do this from time to time, I find myself paying more attention and giving more of a chance to the 'nice and cute' girls who really like me after I participated in p4p. Mostly because I know that a hot kinky chick is only a phone call and an ATM visit away. It allows me to develop deeper relationships and honestly not care if the girl I am with is going to immediately sleep with me. As I approach 30 and attempt to start to settle down, I appreciate those qualities more than easy sex anyway. I have actually dated and seriously considered women who are wonderful people despite a lack of crazy sexual appetite. I feel that this the way women date. The freedom to know that sex can be had anytime while you search for the right person.

That said, p4p also allows me easy access to sex whenever I want. More than that it is guilt free self indulgence. It is rare that I can get a massage and release, or a NSA bj from a gf or date. This easy access, no reciprocation sex really is the junk food of sex. But, it is nice to allow myself to be self indulge and not worry the other person as you are paying them for the service. As a provider once intimated. "I wish someone would just give me head whenever I wanted so I could about my day after that."

In the end, relationship sex is better but with more strings. I find that both have their benefits though. While I wrestle with ethics and morals, it is becoming more clear to me that finding that great sex life with a wonderful, compatible person is not that likely and I may have to balance both needs using p4p.

holy crap if i could fit that onto a business card i would! I'd hand it over to my date at the beginning of the night so she could decide right then&there whether she wants the relationship or just the fun. neither of our time would be wasted!

[skudd]

Originally Posted by sanman111

I'll quote this because it deserves another mention and I agree with most of it. I have mentioned here before that p4p has actually helped me in some ways.

I have also dated over 50 women in a year and hundreds over my dating career. Most bore me and provide little more than a convenient opportunity for sex. The ones I connect with on a deeper level few and far between. Almost all of those don't appeal on a physical level as much as their competition and lack the sense of sexual adventure. They stay friends while I go and bang emotional train wrecks who provide road head, kink, and sex in public places. However, the relationships always fall apart and end up a mess.

While I still do this from time to time, I find myself paying more attention and giving more of a chance to the 'nice and cute' girls who really like me after I participated in p4p. Mostly because I know that a hot kinky chick is only a phone call and an ATM visit away. It allows me to develop deeper relationships and honestly not care if the girl I am with is going to immediately sleep with me. As I approach 30 and attempt to start to settle down, I appreciate those qualities more than easy sex anyway. I have actually dated and seriously considered women who are wonderful people despite a lack of crazy sexual appetite. I feel that this the way women date. The freedom to know that sex can be had anytime while you search for the right person.

That said, p4p also allows me easy access to sex whenever I want. More than that it is guilt free self indulgence. It is rare that I can get a massage and release, or a NSA bj from a gf or date. This easy access, no reciprocation sex really is the junk food of sex. But, it is nice to allow myself to be self indulge and not worry the other person as you are paying them for the service. As a provider once intimated. "I wish someone would just give me head whenever I wanted so I could about my day after that."

In the end, relationship sex is better but with more strings. I find that both have their benefits though. While I wrestle with ethics and morals, it is becoming more clear to me that finding that great sex life with a wonderful, compatible person is not that likely and I may have to balance both needs using p4p.

And guess what.... you are approaching 30... the same will still hold true when you are 40/50 and beyond.

[mike2009]

Originally Posted by skudd

And guess what.... you are approaching 30... the same will still hold true when you are 40/50 and beyond.

nice...

[Mr.Robinson]

Originally Posted by BennyBlanc0

holy crap if i could fit that onto a business card i would! I'd hand it over to my date at the beginning of the night so she could decide right then&there whether she wants the relationship or just the fun. neither of our time would be wasted!

I so wish there was a like button on UG just like they have on facebook!

[lukin4luv]

sex is not everything in a relationship if sex is good, if its not its everything to bring a relationship to an end.

[pawgluvr]

Why do I pay for sex? Well, it's not as simple as the sex, because, as someone else mentioned here, if the session is sleazy you walk away feeling a little bit crappier. What is interesting is the fact that I find myself going to Asian spas despite the fact that I much prefer full figured Caucasian women. They work harder, and they scrub you down so you feel fresh and not sleazy (FS or no FS).

Also though I stress out trying to convey the fact that I am not serious about a relationship while acting like a guy who would only be in long term relationships. It's a type of double talk that I think the non P4P ladies seek out when they are looking for a roll. And honestly, I would rather pay to be with a hot chick than settle for something so-so that I could seduce only after a great deal of effort. I am weary of it all.

[Restrepo]

wow, Mr. Robinson et all, sounds like we're brothers from different mothers. For i too could easily opt for a CW/GF rather than spending my money on experts. But, if history truly repeats itself, the next GF i choose will end up bringing her life's baggage with and expect me to unpack and wash it with her--metaphorically speaking of course.

I'm fairly new to this sport, hobby, needsake...it' not everything, but its everything my physical needs need. The emotional and cerebral can be tickled by some of these pros.
I guess i'm still just testing the waters. Finding my way. One pussy at a time.

thanks for sharing, everyone...