Burnout factor ????

Discussion in 'General Industry Related Topics' started by Slinky Bender, Dec 14, 2000.

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  1. ValerieXXX

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    I gotta see!!!! I am now the new webmistress of the Platinum site, updates are coming soon. I really want to tell it like it is no fluff!!!! Heheheheheeeee!!! This should be interesting. Of course, MOM is here and I am only allowed on the computer when all the family stuff is done......lol........ I guess she wants me to rest up real good, she knows I gotta come back to work. Hey, Amber, I will let you know what I think, GOOD FOR YOU :))
  2. pswope

    pswope One out of three

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    Guerilla marketing means radically different than the norm. while many escorts use the conventions that ignore the reality of what Johns are looking for,yours is at once funny and honest.
    who knows,maybe it'll start a new genre of escort reality based advertising.
  3. Slinky Bender

    Slinky Bender The All Powerful Moderator

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    At least he didn't spell it........oh, nevermind.
  4. bustygirl

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  5. pswope

    pswope One out of three

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    Amber
    Although the design is excellent,I was referring to the ad copy. It's guerilla marketing at its finest.
  6. bustygirl

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    Thanks hon :)

    Actually though, SBs partner made it. I just sent him the wording and photos, and voila it was done.

    I agree he did a GREAT job :)

    Houston's Online Bustygirl,
    Amber
    http://www.bustygirl.net
    http://www.aspd.net
  7. pswope

    pswope One out of three

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    Amber
    That is the best f**kin banner ad for an escort,I've seen in a long time.;probably ever!.
    Val
    You're the Tina Turner of working girls.
  8. ValerieXXX

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    Honestly, there are some in the industry who are driven by the top list. I know of some Amber that would stop at nothing dear. I was the victim of it. I agree that being professional or carefree is a choice. Sometimes you need to be professional. That can save your butt from the crazies, yep experienced that too!

    I choose to be carefree and not go by any 'script' if the chemistry is right hey we kick it, if not well then he has to understand that. I prefer to feel the sensual side. There are some in the top that earned their position, I certainly did! I never got anything for nothing as my friends know here, and just because I am in the top five, hey well I have been on that site for 3 years. i still work my hardest, as the day I first started. No wonder why I needed this break! I have not taken one in 5 years of working non stop, day in day out. Well I can say never again. I am going to enjoy what is left! (I have another job besides being a mommy)

    Gotta bounce!!!!!!!
  9. robnotbob

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    I can vouch for that

    grinz
  10. pswope

    pswope One out of three

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    Amber
    Great post. Honest and insiteful. Hopefully will inspire further open dialogue from both sides.
    fwiw,the consensus of opinion seems to be that you're awesome in the sack. Can't get that type of kudos unless you really care. That puts you in a distinct minority.
    And remember,if the people you respect,return that respect,the rest is Bullsh*t.





    swope(the new Mr Fluffball)
  11. Woolf

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    This board is starting to roll....

    Busty Girl, a nice insight, thanks!
  12. bustygirl

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    Well, since i was invited, i might as well interject into this thread, since it is something i have recently posted quite a bit about on ASPD. Hopefully however, saying it this time i will be able to refine the points a bit more :)

    I have recently begun a rather interesting journey "Back to the Basics" as i call it. When i began in this industry on the web, i really had no clue what was expected of me on Usenet and the boards. Possessed by more than my fair share of eagerness to explore what my guys really wanted, and my natural passion for learning, i jumped in with both feet, asking question upon question of the guys. I was more than a little naive, had just bought my first computer, and was WAYYYY to quick to let myself get pulled into flame wars. Then the reviews began. At first, i had mixed feelings about them. Some were VERY flattering. Some were actually rather embarrassing due to the graphic nature. But they were all pretty good, and while i shuddered for a minute after reading my first "mixed" review (a guy giving me high marks for service and attitude, but stating i really wasn't his type), I soon learned that that review actually brought me more business than many of the "glowing" ones had. If you stay around long enough, your skin begins to thicken, and you learn what to pay attention to, and what to just ignore.

    The downside to all of this, was the effect the reviews had on me. I had never seen this as a career. i was just a girl who had gotten lucky enough to have a really fun and carefree life AND get paid for it!!! Then, the reviews started to change my outlook....and the "Top 100 syndrome" struck. I began to see myself as a "professional". After a lot of pressure from some of the other local girls, i raised my rates. The emails picked up to between 200-500 inquiries a day, and the phones rang nonstop. My life became more and more stressful...and less and less carefree.

    A few weeks ago, i took a long look around, and realized i had became the one thing i had always feared the most: a Professional. So i decided to ditch it all.
    I posted my message on the Houston board, and said "to hell with it". i began a major site rebuild (that is still not up...but will be once it is completed), and reduced my rates back down. I explained this once, and it seems like people "got it"...so i hope you will here too. The more money is on the line per hour, the more i feel like a "High Quality Show" is in order. That is the problem. i gained the popularity that i did because i DIDN'T provide a show. i was just me. Ok, so i have more than my fair of naughtiness and kink. I am a bedroom submissive by nature, and having men tell me what to do half the day IS my idea of a great time. But with the publicity, comes the client imposed image. i regret like hell the day that first review labeled me as "charming, sweet, and tender". ok, so i have a heart. I like to kiss. i can talk about something other than my hair, nails, and the last guy i went out with. But more importantly, i just like to have fun. I like to be spontaneous. i like to be BAD!!!! Being a "Professional" totally screws that up.

    Burnout can come in many forms guys....but most of the ones i have seen revolve around one thing: being pushed into a mold that you just don't fit. Some burnout because they really don't like themselves much, or are ashamed of what they do. Some of us burn out because we LOVE what we do, but get tired of being pushed into a "nice girl" mold.

    I can only hope that comes across as intended...for the point is one you might find helpful: if you want to avoid provider burn out....try not to push them into a "niche". Let us just be who we are.....for the real to life enthusiasm and love of the industry comes to many people (male and female alike) from the VARIETY. If every guy who sees me shows up wanting the exact same session the review outlined the week before, it will be impossible to avoid falling into a "routine". Maybe some ladies like having a script in hand before things take off...but me??? Nope. I prefer to just take it as it comes.

    It will all work out in the end :)

    Houston's Online Bustygirl,
    Amber
    http://www.1houstonbeauty.com
    http://www.aspd.net

    ps. SlinkyBender: you did say post what i think right??? *grinz*
  13. ValerieXXX

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    I miss you too!!!!! I will be cumming back sometime, I just have to rest and get it all tgether, right now the dieting and working out is on my main list of to do's, then of course, licking Brenda, ooops!!! Getting a little ahaead of myself,...lol... Got that strap on on my mind. NY gave me some good memories ahhhhhhhhhhhh.....

    So, How are the flicks? like? I have been taking suggestions for some new ones, I have a personal fantasy,................... multiple partners I have gotta do that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Of course .......lol.....many would like that too!!!!!
  14. TuckernotSucker

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    Hey Val

    Good to see you posting here. I miss you. Im Jake on tbd. When are you comming home to see me? If I remember correctly you never cared top or bottom as long as it was in. Right?LOL Hope to see you soon. I missed your last trip but I will not miss the next one. email me.
  15. MrNY

    MrNY Subject to blackouts

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    hey, one-eye///

    i just signed up, got my password and must say, it IS well worth it......

    there are 12 video's

    69's, shaving, a lot of kissing and oral, then val straps it on and gives it to old brenda

    vv - based on what brenda was receiving - i don't think that she even knew that you were in the room :)

    i give it 2 thumbs up !

    must see !
  16. Ozzy

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    hey val great to see you made it here.........i am no longer who i was v... something. just so you know, i still got your back....but i want o few other thngs....lol ;)
  17. One Eyed Trouser Trout

    One Eyed Trouser Trout #1 Cowboys Fan

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    Val.....

    Those stills of you and Brenda were tantilizing.

    I'm just too damn cheap to buy the tape :=(
  18. ValerieXXX

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    Wait! You mean these things on my chest? Hey, I like to be on top of things....lol.... Well ok, then I will be submissive here and there. Being on the bottom sometimes ain't all that bad.

    As for the response to what I said, yes things do have to slow down every couple of months. I am learning that the hard way (no pun ~smile~) Any one want some rabbit stew?
  19. MrNY

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    well........

    we're both from long island...

    but, my tits are real and bigger than hers :)

    i don't make nearly as much money as her

    and, she has WAY more fun than i do... :(
  20. frog

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    Valerie is MrNY?