Discussion in 'General Industry Related Topics' started by blane17, Dec 27, 2005.
They probably got married and had a kid; maybe kids. who knows??
The sudden interest in this thread begs the question: What ever happened to Blane? He started this thread 10 months ago, yet he never let us know how it worked out. Bastard...
hey, JXM, don't you know you can get banned for that kind of banter? for some reason i have never fully understood, it is verboten to say nice things to me or about me on this board.
It must have been one hell of a blow job...as yours are pretty damn fine IMHO...
i think he meant that working girls might be the women less likely to get "possessive" and "jealous" about their boyfriends.
i don't think it's so sinister a thing - just human nature. just this weekend, a guy i date casually told me about a great blow job he got from an escort. even though i want him to get all the great bj's that life has to offer, my tummy still went kind of funny. after all, in the afterglow of that great bj, i might not look so good any more...in fact, he might just lose interest in me altogether...in fact, the whole world must be on the verge of realizing just how unattractive i really am...etc, etc, blah blah blah. as much as i wish i didn't get those fearful insecure feelings, i just do.
It's not a working girl thing; it's a female thing*.
*Or, do you mean to say that, to your mind, working girls should be the women least likely to get "possessive" and "jealous" about "their" tricks?
Surprise! They're not.
As if a cursory reading of back posts on this board wouldn't bear that last point out. *cough* Kimmie *cough*
As I've said many times, you can't win: if you want them to stop, you're a controlling bastard. If you don't want thenm to stop, you're uncaring and cold because how could you let a girl you cared for "do this"?
Just this week I had a girl who I'd been seeing get snippy with me because she called and I was in some underground club. It was on a night that I had asked to be with her and she made a lame excuse not to be with me, and had spent the day fucking a whole slew of guys. But god forbid I would get a BJ from some girl in a club when she turned me away.
I've had a decent amount of relationships with working girls. I used to be able to handle it, but either they are getting worse as a group, my choices are getting worse, I'm getting less tolerent of their bullshit, or, or ,or.......
But what I'm running into most is girls who are trying really, really hard to prove that they are unlovable; and the harder I try to show them that they are ok, the harder they try to prove how fucked up they are, and pull all sorts of bullshit: it seems like they really do try to fuck things up so that the results fit with their self image. I guess that having people (like thier parents) tell them they are terrible, fucked up kids is so ingrained that if anyone comes along and tries to go in any oher direction, they can't deal the cognitive dissonance, and they are so used to the first type of feedback that they will do whatever it takes to get that feedback.
take the time to listen to your heart and your gut. Then, whatever choice you make, go at it full speed and don't worry about the choice.I think it's the indecision that kills us.
On another point, hobbyists sometimes meet providers and fall for them, and we want them to stop providing. How many us stop hobbying when we fall for a great provider?
I dated a few providers. I kept on seeing other providers. Just had to work harder that they didn't know each other. One woman stopped dating me because she felt that I would ask her to stop. It was the furthest thing from the truth. I wanted her to continue because she was rolling in the dough!
I know a high end pro on the West Coast who started getting serious with a guy. She told him that she was an escort. He got mad and wanted her to stop. She called me for advice and was going to slow down but lie to him. I convinced her that she had to tell him the truth or it would never be real.
She has slowed down just enough to pay her expenses, is planning on moving in with him when her lease is up, and if she does so she will stop completely. She has probably given up $15-20K in extra business since this started, but she is completely happy and he has accepted the situation for now. It is possible, but even one that means well--her first instinct was to lie to him before I talked her out of it.
Here today,gone tomorrow
I had a ATF I was seeking twice a month in a city I visited on business.We would go to dinner and spend alot of time together when I was in town.She only charged for the 1 hour,because she said she enjoyed the rest of the time together so much.We became friends as well...Well she stopped returning ******s recently,as well as phone calls.The *** board for her town also had guys wondering what happened to her.I then found out thru a girl she shared an incall with that she was "taking a break" because she meet someone.I was concerned something happened to her,and was happy to find out she was fine.I totally understand that she started dating one of her clients and he asked her to stop working.I only wish her the best and truely hope she is very happy,but one question...didn't I deserve a phone call...or at least an ****** ?Many of the ladies we see complaint they are not treated right,but it seems that they themselves don't really care about their clients...The point is most of the ladies will take the best offer they get and drop everything else without a second thought...so beware before you commit to her
to paraphrase, "old hookers never retire, they just fade away"
No problem with dating a lady who you met this way. I urge you to give the relationship a shot. I have had many fine relationships with providers over the years. But remember, the odds are against you developing a real relationship! Many guys on the board have tried this, and had terrible experiences. If a woman can find out your real name, address, work location, etc. she is in a position to make your life miserable if things don't work out.
One question for the group: What happens to all the womem who are in this biz? Do they retire and meet Mr. Right (and hope he doesn't find out what they did)? Do they simply spend their lives with the many lesbians they meet in the biz? Do they simply stay single? Inquiring minds would like to know!
my 2 cents :
Been there,done that....
RUN LIKE HELL MAN.....
WHAT HAPPENED HERE?!?!?!?
I'm with you Ozzy; I know that you have done everything that I have done, just for double the amount of time. Right now, the whole dating a stripper thing and believing what they say because they "really care about" you sounds like bunk to me. But, I admit that I am jaded...
Gotta get you back to the "dollar a dance" joints again, buddy.
But wasn't it the great philosopher, Geddy Lee, who said: "If you choose not to decide, you still have made a choice." ?
When you come to a fork in the road, take a helicopter
Gotta agree here.........
Time to go with your gut and take the info you have rec'd here to heart, we all would like to see it work but from everyone who has been down this road(me included) at some level of dating a provider... you are on a slippery slope and the odds are stacked against you ...... but as long as the pain is tolerable and you are not dumpin a family as some have give it a shot........
Keep us posted........ we are voyeurs afterall ...
Be careful out there
a) No... moment of stupidity maybe.
b) Its not your concern. Don't think about or forget it, its over.
c) see (b)
d) been there done that. From the way you're asking about her business I'm tellin you, you ain't cut out for it. Give yourself 6 mos no more, she ain't out by then, it prob ain't gone be comin soon.
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