real names Sometimes you have to give some information to protect both of you. Say you are at a classy hotel in a busy downtown so only valet parking is avialable and only to hotel guests and arrange an outcall visit. If you get a call from the doorman saying "A woman who says she is coming to see Mr. framl is here, and wants us to park her car. Should I send her up? Ok, I have to know you are really the registered guest. What is your name?" you never know who is going to learn about your activity. Maybe hotel security will follow her up. Maybe if your subsequent tip to the doorman isn't good enough your next visitor might be followed by a police dectective. On the other hand, I always respect a provider's nickname and expect her to respect mine. I have need a good reason to expose my own identity, and I've found fewer and fewer good reasons.