Discussion in 'New York' started by burgoyne, Jun 25, 2001.
You really have some demented opinions there JC.
I just saved $350!
I've had to take matters into my "own hands" so I'm tensionless (as per my calculations I've saved myself $1,000's). But as for the need and lust, well those never go away.
Suggested compromise between Monk and Whassup's positions that may produce greater pleasure than either position:
If you click with a particular prostitute, see her again within the week for a second round without acting like a puppy dog. Then don't see her for a while on purpose until gradually working her into your schedule on an irregular sort of basis. That way she doesn't see you as an easy mark and you get the absolute best performance from her at all times.
Have tried: (1) seeing them only once or twice; (2) seeing them every week (sometimes twice); and, (3) the approach suggested above. Think this approach works best.
I disagree about not seeing the same provider more then once. I think if the chemistry is there, the more you see your favorite provider...the better the session. That is the great thing about sex, each person is unique and likes different things. I find the first time I see a provider to be a bit awkward. I'm never quite sure what the person enjoys or wants. But once you figure it out and you feel more comfortable with each other, WOW the sessions become better and better. In my mind, that is the fun part of the hobby...figuring out how to get your favorite provider off. Just my 2 cents.
I never have
They are sometimes really nice but I have never felt that they "loved" me.
thank you all
Thank you all for your responses. I found them all to be very helpful
I once had a provider fall in love with me...sort of. It was at the old Corporate Affairs/Everything's Kosher. I don't remember her name, but she was an odd looking woman. Olive complexion, a large, flat nose and beautiful, dark eyes. She told me she was from a French/Indian/Haitian background. Anyway, the activities in the session were pretty standard, except she became more and more passionate as things progressed. Afterwards, she asked me all of these personal questions, such as "Was I married?" and "Did I have kids" and "Did I live alone?" Later, I thought back on the session and remembered that right after we had done the deed, she had said "I didn't expect that to happen," surprised with herself. Thinking back on it I realized that she had come. When it was time to leave, she spoke with the Madam (who usually escorted you out) and walked me to the door herself. It was down a long hallway, which couldn't be seen from the rest of the apartment. At the door she whispered to me: "if I give you my number, will you call me at home?" She seemed very sincere. So I took her number. But I never called. I wasn't sure if this was all an act or if she was for real. She was pretty young, lived in an apartment somewhere New Jersey, didn't seem to have been in the business for long. I chalked it up to immaturity. But I've never forgotten the experience.
I, too, seldom see a provider more than twice. And the few times I've broken the rule, I've been sorry. My experience is that it doesn't get "better and better" with providers. I think they start taking you for granted and the service declines over time.
To some degree, I fall in love with almost all providers I've seen in recent memory. But when our time is up (usualy 1 hour) then my feelings of love also leave.
It may be odd to some, but this helps me really get into the session and makes it that much more pleasureable for me. As I have varied tastes in ladies, I'm usually able to find something loveable in all of them. And it would not only be my _ock in her mouth ....lol
I've been on a self imposed sabatical from the hobby but the urge to merge is catching up with me. Time to search the UG board for my next rendezvous.
[Edited by Casper on 06-27-2001 at 12:14 AM]
Not a stupid question
I fell in love with a provider not too long ago and I don't regret a second of our relationship. I work in a very white collar industry and all my friends thought I was crazy. I can honestly say I experienced some of the most incredible moments of my life. I saw life from a different angle, a different view. It's a relationship that will forever change me as a person. Deep down I knew we would not spend the rest of our lives together but it was the right time and the right place for us to be together. I learned so much about myself and about life. She took me to places I never dreamed of and made me experience feelings and sensations I never thought possible. She made me see that life is not always about money and greed. I will never forget her. And I think we really touched and changed each other's lives for the better. I feel so lucky to have met such an incredible and strong person.
on the other hand I have stopped keeping in touch with some clients as I see its getting the feel of a non booking HOWEVER I have found it to be like a double edged sword as they have hinted I saw them for the $$$$$ only... sheeeeesh!!!
so i am well guarded. I have always admitted this is a great xtra income with no strings attached but evenually I must step back into the shadow.
Hope this makes sense. I rushed and spelled wrong, spank me door sorry
Of course, I think it almost goes without saying that any man who wants to consider himself knowledgeable about commercial sex should fall in love (even if just a little and kept completely to himself) at some point in his career with a prostitute. You'll never figure out what commerical sex is really all about unless you do.
I'm in love with a provider...
but if she doesn't stay away from those young blondes, and the brunette in SC, I'll have to love them too!
Wimpy this is scary!
Alot of us guys have had similar feelings!!
I have fallen for a provider on two seperate occassions. Its amazing that the the best intentions could lead to a broken heart. Many years ago I met this provider at a house on 34th and 1st. from the first time we met I was in love. I saw her many times at this incall place. Through cnversation I found out that she lived in NJ. So she left the house and I continued to see her at her place of residence. We spent many days and nights together. When I called to come over she would cook me dinner and would ask me to sleep over. Sure, I paid for the privilage, but in the scheme of things it was not a lot of money considering the time spent.(even 10 yrs ago). She would say all the right things. Like I am one of kind. I can get her do things other men can't. I am a true person who has a good heart. So when my heart kicks in I was in love. So I asked her to take it to the next level. She told me and I quote. "You are very special to me and all of the things I said are true, but our relationship is one of supply and demand." Yeah she new I was in love with her. She told me that she never thought I would get so deep. I asked her if she knew how I felt , why not prevent the train wreck before I came barrelling down the tracks. Ater that conversation I never saw her again. She called and left me messages and I never returned the calls. But, I thought it was true love and damn you culd not tell me otherwise.
So through the ages I have made myself one promise in the hobby. Not to see a provider more than twice. Sure I have broken that a few times but it has kept my heart safe. Recently I have been seeing a new provider recently. And right away I began to swoon for a Her. She has a genuine good heart and personality. But I realize that some of the things she says to me...while true, end when I walk out the door and the next client walks in.
To my provider of ten years ago who went by the of Mia. God do I miss you and I have gotten over you. So if you are around give me a call or e-mail.
This is Old rehashed tread!
Reminds me of one I wrote back in February about my favorite provider- Could be good or could be bad- you never can tell!!
I've actually stopped seeing a provider when I felt that she was leading me on, and I was beginning to believe it.
There was one in particular who I saw a couple of times. I got along with her quite well, and she was great at all my favorite activities, but she prefaced every new act by saying that she doesn't normally do that with clients. (She even said she doesn't normally do FS. I mean any FS, I'm not talking about something stupid like BBFS.) When all was said and done, I was left wondering what she normally does do with clients, and imagined her simply taking their money and leaving. The problem was that part of me wanted to believe her, since it was all very flattering to hear.
Rather than continuing to wonder whether or not she was being the least bit truthful with me, I cut things off.
[Edited by jmp on 06-26-2001 at 09:59 AM]
i'm not saying rule it out all together. but be VERY VERY careful. it is a high risk/high reward scenario. with a huge emphasis on the word risk. however if you feel that this is a real genuine shot at finding true happiness then go for it. just be prepared for the worst. do not fall into the trap of believing what you WANT to believe or hearing what you WANT to hear. that will lead to a broken heart.
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