Justme, I think you are exactly right... and its exactly wrong that we do it. As long as I have been involved in this "hobby" I have done my best to keep the rose colored specticales in the draw where they belong. Frankly, for the record, I feel I enjoy myself more due to that very fact. This because I don't seek romantic fulfillment in these business transactions, just sexual [you listening GC?]. This means the provider and I, her client, can conduct ourselves in a business like manner while having FUN [hey, you PAY to get into an amusement park in order to have fun, yes?]. The fact that there are little or no illusions allows us each to be friendly and kind to each other in the process. If business is down well, good vibes are always the result. More happy for me, less stressful for the provider. Everyone makes out.