Othello: the hobby has no rules, except an unwritten one that hobbyists be gentlemen when they are dealing with providers. (at least from my perspective) The semiotics of terminology are not worth any serious contemplation. As SB has just suggested, terms that one person finds acceptable are an anathema to someone else. Calling a provider by any other name involves the potential for hurt feelings. Similarly, a provider referring to an hobbyist by other designations can inflict wounds. Regarding your other concern, quantity or quality, I would recommend blending the two. I always appreciate an excellent new provider, and I will avidly seek her out, if possible. She affords the excitement that emanates from the unknown. Yet, I also enjoy the quality of someone whom I have known for sometime. She provides new twists on old regimens, and you might actually find affinity between you, that transcends the sex act itself. Until recently, I had established a relationship with someone in that category, but I allowed the nexus to get too close and lost someone whom I care for a great deal. I suppose combining the new with the known is best, as long as you keep your guard up, lest the known ruin your day.