thanking a Provider

Discussion in 'New York' started by cablesurfer, Jul 1, 2001.

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  1. wimpy

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    It's amazing because I can see where both sides are coming from on "Thanking a Provider".

    Bottom line I think giving away the store after one or two sessions with any provider is...well crazy. But if you have developed a good relationship with a provider and you have the means to give lavish gifts then do it. I don't think a provider will look at any other clients as being cheap. We all have to live within our spending limit.

    Just my two cents.

    But all parties here are not necessarily right but the are not wrong.

    Wimpy0704@hotmil.com
  2. tommyf117

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    Better to Go with Upscale Provider

    Instead of giving lavish gifts, why not go with an upscale provider with the ultimate GFE. Cheaper in the long run.
  3. thelastone

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    Re: hey jgd

    Check out the yahoo club nycstripclubs.

    http://clubs.yahoo.com/clubs/nycstripclubs

    It has a plethora of info on clubs and crap.

    last
  4. MJC185

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    hey jgd

    It was called Dehlia's Den on Rt 35. We had travelled out to Go GO Rama, which was a kick ass joint back in 90-93 when I was in college. It's a friggin assembly line now and we weren't into it.

    But DD....what a friggin gem. Tons of girls there (I'd say at least 15) and the place is so huge you can chill out of the spotlite, not spending money if you dont feel like it. The girls do not hassle you for singles, instead trying to be sexy to get private dances, many of which can be quite good.

    Strip clubs realy aren't my thing. I'd much prefer an HR massage or FS for my money, but I will bounce around the local joints every now and again.

    If anyone has a recommendation, I'm all ears.

    MJC
  5. thelastone

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    No, actually I'm there for the sex. ;)


    No, really I'm there for the sex first, good connection (ie conversation, warmth, interest, etc) is what gets me to rave, and keeps me coming back.

    last
  6. Phantom

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    And that is the sought after GFE.
  7. fishfry

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    Hey wsb lighten up. [God does it burn my ass when somebody tells me to lighten up!] Anyway a few years ago Woody Allen wrote a humor piece about an escort service where they specialized in intelligent girls who would come over and discuss Kant.

    And I'm sure most people around here know what prostitutes know: that most men say they're there for sex, but they're really there for companionship.

    In fact the providers who understand that do way better than the girls who think it's just about impersonally getting the guy off.

    fish
  8. rodpeters2001

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    Don't Give Store Away

    Ditto WSB. What's this bull about giving the whole store away. This is setting a dangerous precedent. Am I to infere that we tip agency providers and not indepedents.
  9. Geezy Muldoon

    Geezy Muldoon Gold

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    leave

    [Edited by Judge Crater on 07-25-2001 at 05:21 PM]
  10. wsb

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    I am so sick of this crap. Providers are paid to be "intimate" with their clients. That is the service they provide. Lawyers are paid for each hour of time that they actually spend rendering legal services on a client matter, not for the amount of time the spend staring into space. While I think clients should be considerate and not simply waste a providers time with the expectation that she will simply go overtime or that all the chat is off the clock, the provider also has an obligation to ensure that the client is satisfied with the service. So if a provider spends an hour discussing Kant and supply-side economics and expects to be paid without rendering any service, I think she is deluding herself if she expects the client to just go along with that. If the provider intends to stick to a strict schedule and all the chit-chat is resulting in the session falling dangerously behind schedule, then at some point the provider needs to suggest that it's time to get down to business or perhaps there won't be enough time for the client to fully enjoy himself.

    --WSB
  11. jgd

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    MJC185

    What was the strip club?
  12. MJC185

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    LOL!

    Hey Bill,

    Just Friday night I was checking out a kick ass Jersey strip club I've never been to. One of the dancers was cool as hell and when she saw me take out a piece of gum she asked for one. When I gave her the expected "what will you give me for it, wink wink" she surprised me by coming back a few minutes later and throwing a hard candy at me! She spent a large portion of the rest of the night sitting by my friend and I and just chatting.

    Sometimes the little quirky things are how you make a connection with someone. Gifts are something you should really reserve for someone you KNOW at least a bit. Get a feel for a good provider and what she might really appreciate and go from there. (although I doubt ANY provider would be unable to appreciate a gift certificate for a spa).

    MJC
  13. Bill Furniture

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    I'm gonna get yelled at for this, but...

    When my buddies and I hung out at the nudie bars, we knew the girls so well that we'd just give them a piece of gum or some peanuts. The funny part was that they'd come down to sit with us after their shifts.
  14. Ozzy

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    i wasn't thinking of a day spa for two.....


    more along the lines of sending her to eve arden(?) for a few hours. send her alone or else it's a date......or something else ($$$) may be expected.
  15. Phantom

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    I tend to favor my rabbit in a spicy Cajun gumbo. :D
  16. fishfry

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    If you invite a provider to a day spa, she is going to expect to be paid for the day. As the saying goes, she is providing her time and companionship . . . anything else that happens is between consenting adults.

    As someone already pointed out, you better explain to her that this is off the clock.

    Do you have a job? What would be your response if your boss said to you, "Fred, you are doing a great job around here. You are doing such a great job that I'd like you to come over to my house on your day off and spend the whole day hanging out with me."

    Wouldn't you conclude thatyour boss is unclear on the concept of personal vs. professional relationships?
  17. Aristotle

    Aristotle Just another girl on the IRT

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    Stuffed Rabbit..............hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm yummy. Personally, I prefer a fricassee, although Rabit Fricassee tends to give me a little heartburn.
  18. Paige

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    The Gents Have Valid Points Here

    Yes even I thought Jewlery is a bit much at this point I keyed in on the massage myself.
    But If I may two of the "Nicest "gifts were a Stuffed Animal a Rabbit that it's fur sparkles(Fao Scwartz Bunny) and a giftset from Bath and Body Shop a Basket of all my Favorite Citrus scents .
    So if I were to get a massage as a gift in the form of a Gift Certificate great but jewlery honestly would scare me. Its still a sweet gesture to treat someone special. Just as the fellas say be careful
    PaigeOfNYC

    [Edited by paige on 07-01-2001 at 04:36 PM]
  19. Hotpuppy

    Hotpuppy Mr.Butterworth

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    Take the advice of Oz and Phantom, start small and as you develop a relationship you will know what is appropriate. Just one thing, if you get to the day spa stage( " I thought about taking the person to a day spa") make sure you both understand that it is "off the clock", unless you agree otherwise. In one of my first experiences a few years ago, I thought I was "hitting it off" with a provider that I met while traveling. After the session, it was fairly early in the evening, I invited her out to dinner, she accepted and we had a really nice time. As we were leaving the restaurant , she asked for the usual donation for her time. I was stunned, but quickly realized that she had been my "date" not my date. Long story short, she was very classy about it, gave me a short, kind lecture about the business, and called it a wash. So be clear about what you are doing and read every thread about getting too close to the ladies.
    take care HP
  20. Ozzy

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    start with a basket of bath oils or lotions first. flowers isn't bad idea either.....

    a day at the spa?????? maybe. but jewelery is to personal.


    i have yet to buy jewelery for a provider..........and i get accused of over wooing all the time.

    [Edited by Ozzy on 07-01-2001 at 12:10 PM]